Guys Fake Orgasms Too
July 12th, 2009It’s not as easy to fake it for a guy as it is for a girl, but it can be done, and according to a recent survey on orgasms it’s been done by 24% of men! That’s a staggering number for something that most women don’t even know is an option.
How does a guy fake it when guy’s climaxes come along with…well…proof? First of all, a condom is a faker’s best friend. Pull the condom off quickly and throw it away and a girl may never suspect a thing. Otherwise, just saying it was a small one can cover up a faker’s tracks. And anyone with a little dramatic skill can pull off a convincing “Oh God, that’s it!”
Reasons why guys fake it:
• He suffers from anorgasmia. – Some people—men and women alike—are just unable to climax.
• He has a bad case of performance anxiety. – A guy may feel some pressure to perform (like if its his first time with this particular partner) and that pressure could spook his body into holding back from orgasming. In order to convince his partner that he did indeed perform well, he would fake an orgasm in this case.
• He’s just not into it. – This doesn’t mean he’s not into you (though that could also be the problem…); it just means that for whatever reason, his mind is elsewhere – on his job, money, etc. He could just fake an orgasm to end this sack session. Maybe he’d rather—ack!—talk instead.
• He’s on medication or has a medical condition. – Certain meds or illnesses can prevent a guy from ejaculating. He may still be able to get sexually aroused, but then has no way of relieving his erection. A never-ending erection can get exhausting and a guy may just rather fake his way out of it rather than explain his condition.
• He’s being unfaithful. – Sometimes guilt and shame can affect a guy physically.
• He has erectile dysfunction. – If he knows he’s about to lose his erection a bit prematurely, he may fake and orgasm, which would explain why he’s gone all soft already.
I’m dating a 60 year old man who claims that he has not had sex for the last six years and that he would never lie to me…….I can’t believe I said that in the same sentence either. Anyway, we have known each other for 3 years and I do believe that he would not lie to me. Our first sexual encounter was akward. He was more concerned with my pleasure than maintaining an erection. He’s very agressive to the point that he seems somewhat frustrated at his lack of erection. He does smoke and does have a drink or two to relax. I’m 54 and by no means hot but have a nice body that I take care of. My libido isn’t what it was before I started taking cholesterol medicine so I could take sex or leave it at this time in my life. I fake orgasms to make him feel more manly as his lack of erection does not bother me. He likes to talk about sex alot and I really feel like he is sexually frustrated. Before we dated he did tell me he mastabated rather than risk a disease from someone he didn’t know. He does have a lot of weight around his mid section so he coukd have diabetic problems……loves sweets. How do I take the emphasis off of sex in our relationship so that he doesn’t have performance anxiety? He is the one that always starts the petting and wants sex. I really enjoy this man and would like to see where this could go for us but this is beginning to become an issue, our first lovemaking session was 4 hours long……eeeeeck! The next one was about that long and I know for a fact that he did have an orgasm but his penis was pretty flaccid when he did. I’m hoping over time that things will not be so anxiety ridden for him that he feels like he has to perform. What can I do to help him with this anxiety? I am very comfortable with myself and don’t have to have sex in a relationship to survive, I know how to satisfy myself if I need to. with men I think it is different. They feel less manly if they don’t have a strong erection. that is not the way I feel. As long as there is respect and genuine love between two pwople, how can one convince a man that sex it not such an important role in a relationship that the lack of sex would cause distance. I don’t have to have sex to feel whole or complete. I think he is puting too much pressure on himself and I don’t know what to do.